Food for Thought

I Live in the “New Loneliness”

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In her article This is the New Loneliness Jamie Varon focuses on the Millennial Generation. She categorizes them as both the most and least connected generation, due to their inherent, almost organic, use of social media.

I believe millennials have a arrested interpersonal communication skills, simply as a result of being born into a technology-dependent culture.  Communication requires “doing.” As children, millenials were not encouraged to physically be present. Most of their play needs were met by technology. So, it is unfair to paint them as disconnected.  They connect differently.  Social media, rather than face-to-face interactions, is their preferred vehicle.

Ms. Varon overlooked the original disconnected generation – Generation X. 

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We were latchkey kids. Loneliness was ingrained in our lives.  Sure we participated in every activity we wanted to, but most of us held a piece of ourselves back – a self-preservation piece.

These early experiences served us well as we entered an unpredictable, and sometimes volatile work environment, vastly different from the generations that preceded us.  The days of a life-long career with one company ended, just as we came of age.  So we became latchkey adults.

Social media paired nicely with Generation X, because it allowed us that “separation” we learned in childhood.  Technology offered the buffer against anonymity. We were still communicating, just indirectly.

I work primarily from home, so I have limited contact with others. And, even though I prefer to work alone, I genuinely miss the everyday interactions among coworkers in an office.  

Sometimes, I force…no…motivate myself to physically interact with other people.  As a natural “loner” and “homebody,” this is as unnatural and outside my comfort zone, as it gets.

Additionally, I am an extroverted introvert, suffering from clinical depression. Not only do I have to psych myself up to “participate,” I then need several days within my soul cave to regroup and recharge.

The paradox for me has been that even though social media is  “artificial” (as in manmade, rather than preexisting) I am still myself when I am online.  Some people create entirely new personas and lives. I did not and have not. Regardless of the clever nicknames I take on, given the site, my personality remains intact. Acting as someone else, is just not in my skill set.

Missing in technology-based interactions are the subtleties of speech, inflection and body language.  For someone who joyfully wields sarcasm and dark humor, this is a slippery slope.  Not only have I written/said things that were not understood as I had intended, I too have felt the string of a poorly worded online barb.

And, those words that are carelessly hurled around under the guise of anonymity? Those words injure, sometimes fatally. They bring the loneliness to a level that surpasses having a “dark/gloomy” or even “sad” day. Social media gives us the liberty to erect  invisible walls to hide safely behind.

The key is to peek over the wall, open the gate and talk to our neighbors…but it’s easier and quicker to just text them, isn’t it?

Top Ten Reasons “Secretary” Beats “50 Shades of Grey” – SundanceTV

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I mentioned how poorly 50 Shades of Grey, tries to depict a D/s or BDSM relationship, in a few earlier posts.  This article illustrated it more concisely than I could.

Top Ten Reasons “Secretary” Beats “50 Shades of Grey” – SundanceTV.

Exploring New Things and the Joy of Finding Like-minded People

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Over the past month, I have been learning more about myself and focusing time on things that interest me.  I have met several people who are similar situations, and equally committed to understanding and working within their circumstances.

What I was not expecting were the friendships that have evolved along this journey.   I believed I was alone in my quest, but I was not, and will not be, at least in the near future.  So, thank you for bearing with me, readers, as I promise to return.   I do have several book reviews to share with you, once I have deciphered my almost unreadable notes.

In the meantime, I leave you with the words immortalized by the great Casey Kasem, whom I grew up listening to and set the bar incredibly high for radio DJs.   He passed away last month, entirely too soon.  “America’s Top 40” will never be the same.

casey kasem rip

 

Dusting off the Cobwebs

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deep-breathYes, I am still alive.   No, I don’t want to talk about it, because I know how badly I’ve neglected my blog.  Suffice it to say, that I have begun to climb out of the darkness and am finding new light.

I have met some interesting new people, and one amazing person in particular, with whom I have much in common.  Part of starting a new chapter, is the element of newness and wonder seeing yourself through someone else’s eyes.  Sometimes we need to step back and strip away our biases against ourselves and see the simple beauty they see.  Thank you friend, for seeing inside my soul and being present with me.

There are a few wonderful books I’ll be sharing with you soon.   Just have to knock the cobwebs off the blog and publish my reviews.

Happy weekend, everyone.  I promise not to be a stranger.  Much.

Why Google doesn’t care about hiring top college graduates

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I’ve only worked in one organization that believed this. It was an amazing work experience – collaborative and humble. The most successful, long-term employees were people who had to WORK for what they had. They were prouder of company’s success over their own personal success. Hire people who WANT to learn on the job.  Be an organization that inspires pride in its employees.  The combination is amazing.

“Latin America: Deaf, Dumb, and Blind to Crisis in Venezuela” by Carlos Sabino

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“Latin America: Deaf, Dumb, and Blind to Crisis in Venezuela” by Carlos Sabino

Editorial by Carlos Sabino on the lack of response by Latin American countries to the critical situation in Venezuela.   Panamá remains the only country to demand the OAS  (Organization of American States) intervene.   As a result, Venezuelan President Maduro severed economic and diplomatic ties with Panamá on Wednesday.   This was the statement released to the press by President Martinelli of Panamá, in response.  It is important to acknowledge, that Venezuela was one of the most vocal countries in calling for investigations of violent suppression of peaceful demonstrations in Panamá, in the mid to late 1980s.

Blades Le Respondió a Maduro…con Sensatez y en buen Panameño

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En el 18 de febrero, Rubén Blades, publicó su resumen personal llamado, Venezuela, sobre la situación trágica que está viviendo el pueblo Venezolano a manos de sus gobernantes y cuerpos militares.   Como mencioné en este blog, soy fanática del cantautor, pero no de su ausiencia durante el régimen de Noriega, en Panamá.  Esa “persona” (Noreiga) nos dañó la adolecencia a más de una generación y se cago en nuestro país, pero su juicio será por el Todopoderoso, ya que la Karma nos encuentra a todos, al fin y al cabo.

Al leer las declaraciones de Blades, Nicolás Maduro, Presidente de Venezuela, quien ordenó los ataques brutales sobre manifestantes pacificos,  transmitió este video.     Maduro,  quien dice ser fanático de Blades,  no solo, malinterpreta la letra y mensaje de sus canciones, si no que invita a Blades a Venezuela.    El hombre es un imbecil malvado, cajonauta, con complejo napoleónico de grado superlativo.   O como decimos en Panamá…¡Qué poca altura!

El 20 de febrero, Blades le “paró el happy” a Maduro con las siguientes declaraciones eloquentes y prudentes.    Rubén Blades estudió derecho en la Universidad de Panamá, obtenió su posgrado en Harvard University y ha creado una carrera sobresaliente como compositor, músico y cantante.   Las palabras han sido su lienzo y las usa con precisión en su respuesta a Maduro.

Mientras tanto, las violaciones a los derechos humanos contra los Venezolanos, a manos de su gobierno siguen sin censura alguna del primer mundo.  ¡¡¿Hasta cuando?!!

#SOSVenezuela   #PrayforVenezuela  #JusticiaparaVenezuela