Does 50 Ever Become Nifty?

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About a month ago, I reached a new milestone – I turned 50. I fully embraced my inner Sally O’Malley and was ready to take on the second part of my century.  Heck, after celebrating my 40th birthday, and the entire decade, I expected 50 to have a similar effect on me.

It did not.

It has, in fact, had the opposite effect. 50 has only served to highlight my lack of youth and inevitable aging.  Updating my blog to reflect my new “status” made me reflect on where I am.

While I have continued to age disgracefully, there is a profound sense of loss. I just cannot pinpoint what I have lost.

Only time will tell…

I have not changed the world or even traveled as much as I had hoped. I have not made my mark in society, as I continue to be one of the millions of drones who go about their lives every day.

All I know is that I am scared.

Scared that I, like so many others before me, will simply disappear into the obscurity of the aging process. Scared that as an “older” woman, who is well into menopause, I have become obsolete. Scared that my days as a sensual, sexual being are numbered, and the clock is not on my side.

So 50, we have reached an impasse. Will you help me reframe my pessimistic view of my immediate future? Or will I continue to morph into one “those women,” the ones we see, but look right through?

Only time, as limited as it is, will tell. But, it is not on my side.

On My Faith and this Election

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Goldie Taylor’s latest article for the Daily BeastDonald Trump Is Exposed, And So Are the Republicans Who Are Sticking With Him, demonstrates the hypocrisy inherent in the extreme right-wing of the GOP,  and their “do as I say, not as I do” holier than thou cavalier attitude towards their Christianity.

“But no principled, Christian conservative can justify backing a thrice married, serial philander who essentially confessed to sex crimes. However, this race was never about principle. It was never about Republican themes like small government, personal responsibility or family values. From the start, Trump’s campaign has been predicated on sexism (and ethno-nationalistic racism). It is and always has been about white male resentment and anguish. Trump bottled that antipathy—for women and minorities— and put it on a chartered flight to Iowa.”

There IS a choice for voters of Faith who believe that we ARE our brothers’ and sisters’ keepers. A candidate who has raised an intelligent, poised, confident, loving daughter; who remained faithfully married to an adulterous husband for 40 years; who has championed the rights and protection of children her entire life; and who has been an outspoken advocate for women, People of Color, LGBTQIAP people, military personnel, Veterans and their families; and people of all Faiths and beliefs.

HER name is Hillary Clinton and we KNOW what her credentials are.

You can vote for the GOP nominee, who is the very personification of the “ugly American” – undisciplined, greed-driven, arrogant, ill-prepared, unhinged, deranged, impetuous, irritable, pathologically unfit, and fundamentally dangerous.catholics_for_hillary_drink_coaster-rc1854bb3dafc4de1aea5b1f2801fb4f1_29m68_8byvr_324

Or you can vote for Hillary Clinton. Third-party candidates are simply not an option.

We know Mrs. Clinton’s record. We know that ALL of her Democratic primary opponents have not only supported her candidacy for President of the United States, but are campaigning on her behalf.  That says more about her character and their respect for her, than the slickest political advertising.

So, my fellow voters of Faith, it is time to search your hearts and spend time meditating on the teachings of Jesus.  Then, take a close, long look at His actions, the people he surrounded Himself with and those He ministered to.

Then, ask yourselves which candidate more closely embodies those ideals. She needs our votes in November. She has EARNED our votes.

Thank God, and may our Blessed Mother guide and keep Hillary Clinton safe from now, through Election Day and her Inauguration.  Use your voice and vote for Hillary Clinton to be President of the United States. She is the RIGHT choice. She is the ONLY choice.

As a Roman Catholic Latina, #ImWithHer and you should be too, because we Americans are #StrongerTogether.

Women So “Full of Rage” in Politics

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Ms. Causey makes the case for the rampant and institutionalized sexism and misogyny, in reporting and everyday speech, about women. 

If Hillary Clinton did not have an email “scandal” or been investigated time, and time again – and vindicated – for the death in Benghazi, the right wing would create some other scandal.   By the same token, they IGNORE and FAIL to similarly investigate Donald Trump.

It is abundantly clear that if this is to change, men must see, acknowledge and act upon this, WITH women. Until men understand that sexist language, images, and commentary about women is deleterious to ALL people, not just women. However, I am not confident they will. Unfortunately.

My Vagenda of the day

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1.  Aspirin, fluids, benadryl and soup, to feel better.

2. Bringing all the boys to the yard, to crush their fragile egos, as we begin the manocide.

3. Slutty books and doggie cuddles.

4. Gilmore Girls marathon.

What’s on your  Vagenda of ManocideVagenda of Manocide?


Leadership, as Demonstrated by Bernie Sanders -#ImWithHer @HillaryClinton

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Today, Senator Bernie Sanders further doubled down on his support of Hillary Clinton for the Presidency of the United States.  He eloquently and explicitly stated why, in an opinion piece entitled “I Support Hillary Clinton. So Should Everyone Who Voted for Me” for the LA Times.

Most of Sen. Sanders’ supporters transitioned to Sec. Clinton during, and immediately following the Democratic Party’s Convention.  However, there were a small group of holdouts, who were being called the “tea party of the left.”  This vocal minority, many of whom have aligned themselves with the Green Party, were threatening to vote for Donald Trump, in protest.

Sen. Sanders did not mince any words when he said, “During the primaries, my supporters and I began a political revolution to transform America. That revolution continues as Hillary Clinton seeks the White House. It will continue after the election. It will continue until we create a government which represents all of us and not just the 1 percent – a government based on the principle of economic, social, racial and environmental justice.”

“I understand that many of my supporters are disappointed by the final results of the nominating process, but being despondent and inactive is not going to improve anything. Going forward and continuing the struggle is what matters. And, in that struggle, the most immediate task we face is to defeat Donald Trump,” He further stated. Sen. Sanders understands that in order to enact progressive legislation, Democrats and other left-leaning and centrist groups, must unite against the propsed tyranny of trump, and his ilk. Bernie or Bust bros please take note, as Sen. Sanders is demonstrating how consensus and coalition building works.

As for me, I got my “Woman Card,” so deal me in, because I’m with Hillary Clinton!

The GOP Platform Goes Completely off the Rails

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Each time the GOP lowered the bar for itself, during John McCain’s presidential campaign, I hoped someone would step up and say, “Enough!  We are better than this.”  But, once Sarah Palin became a  “leader” of the party, I knew the only hope for the party of Lincoln was destruction from the inside. Then, deep and careful introspection and a return to actual conservatism.

Sadly, I was wrong. Not only was Michael Steele fired as RNC Chair, but his suggested reforms, based on actual data, were  summarily dismissed. Mitt Romney, who had been a successful, but moderate governor, transformed himself into a bitter, angry man, in order to curry favor from the Koch brothers and others of that ilk.

This year, one of the most bigoted, homophobic, misogynistic and crazy platforms in the GOP’S history was unveiled.  As Esquire Magazine detailed, Republican Party Platform: Porn Is A Public Health Threat; Guns Are Not.  Wait.  WHAT?!!

Yesterday, Secretary Clinton said, “the party of Lincoln has become the party of trump.” Lynsey G. was a little less delicate in her blog post, GOP Platform Names Porn a “Public Health” Crisis.  Yes,  folks, pornography is a bigger health risk to our Country than poverty, the Flint Michigan water supply or even the  Zika virus. Bigger than gun violence.

The clown car of chaos has officially been taken over by Toonces, the Driving Cat, with the  GOP leadership’s tacit blessing. By doing nothing, they allowed themselves to sink into a hole of excrement they can no longer escape.

Trump’s GOP is little more than an episode of reality television, complete with undereducated surrogates, carelessly thrown out sensational lies, tabloid-worthy headlines and dangerous rhetoric that appeals to the very worst part of our society.

It is like a Maury Povich audience, on crack, with live ammunition, overdosed on Viagra, gone completely off the rails.  Only much much worse.

I am terrified for our country. Terrified.  We must vote as if our lives depend on it.  Not voting is no longer an option.

Courage, Grace and Strength Under the Most Insurmountable Odds

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Trigger Warning: This post, and the article shared, feature a rape victim’s frank and explicit statement to the man who raped her.  Please share with women and men, responsibly.

I have written about serving as an adviser to a college sorority for many years.  The experience forever changed me as a woman.

One of the most difficult subjects I encountered was how to frame the conversations around sex and consent.  This was before colleges and universities recognized rape, sexual assaults, sexual batteries and every point on that continuum as a violation of a student’s rights, according to the school’s own policies.

How I wish websites like Consent Is Everything had existed to give me tools on how to broach this delicate subject.  How I wish I had known what constituted consent when I was a college student. I would have recognized that I too was a victim of acquaintance rape.   And I would have known that it is far more common than we can imagine.

But, what happens when a brave young woman comes forward to share how she was unimaginably violated by a “star athlete?”  Why does she have to justify her actions, when he was the one who committed rape upon her?  Why is she the one whose morals and character are called into question?   And, how does she react when faced with the reality that his “status” may have ensured preferential treatment by the justice system?

What happens is this brilliantly heartbreaking victim’s statement, as shared by Buzzfeed’s news reporter, Katie Baker Here’s The Powerful Letter The Stanford Victim Read To Her Attacker.

To the woman who stood strong, surrounded by people who loved and supported her, I say – your mission in life is ahead of you.  Each time you speak truth to power, you are helping another person.

To Brock Allen Turner, I say – may Karma find you. Repeatedly. For the rest of your miserable life, you rapist.