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The Courage of Thomas McKenzie

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I am a Roman Catholic.  I am also a proud Democrat.  Not voting in the GOP’s Presidential primaries is not a crisis of conscience for me, especially since Pope Francis has spoken out clearly about the history of social justice of my Church.   I am, for the first time in many years, able to vote my conscience without betraying my Faith.

Today, I read Thomas McKenzie’s post,   This Isn’t Funny Anymore: Why I’m Voting Against Donald Trump.  Mr. McKenzie, an Anglican priest, describes how Donald Trump’s candidacy runs afoul to basic Christian teachings.   Trump’s entertaining, yet troubling, rise in popularity, has continued to cultivate an ugly, racist, misogynist, intolerant feeling that has permeated our culture.

Sadly, after Mr. McKenzie’s post went viral, he was subjected to exactly the type of bullying, he so eloquently illustrated in his writing.   Some of these unsavory characters have resorted to threats of violence, which I hope he has reported to local law enforcement.

Mr. McKenzie’s words touched and moved me.  I know several former Republicans, my husband included, who have been deceived and left behind by their political party.  They have seen reasonable discourse turned into vitriolic insults at President Obama, Democratic politicians, women, minorities, disabled persons, and anyone who may deem to disagree with them.   They have all gone “underground,” have reclassified themselves as “independents,” and are supporting candidates who espouse centrist views. Silently.

Mr. McKenzie, please know that you are not alone.  Your strength in speaking truth to power, is what Jesus called all of us to do.   You set a humble example that I hope many more of us follow.     Christians and non-Christians, must question the motives of Presidential candidates, demand to know exactly what their platforms are, then vote according to what makes our Country great, and that is to continue to BUILD a more perfect union, as our forefathers wanted.   We are a work in progress, and TOGETHER we are better.   Jesus taught us that.

An Open Letter to Sarah Palin

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He and I may not share the same politics, but as the wife of a Gulf War-Era US Army Veteran, with PTSD, I applaud the measured, dignified and professional way he chose to address Sarah Palin’s grossly inappropriate and deliberately misguided remarks.

Thank you for your words and service, Chris Mark.

Source: An Open Letter to Sarah Palin

Top Ten Reasons “Secretary” Beats “50 Shades of Grey” – SundanceTV

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I mentioned how poorly 50 Shades of Grey, tries to depict a D/s or BDSM relationship, in a few earlier posts.  This article illustrated it more concisely than I could.

Top Ten Reasons “Secretary” Beats “50 Shades of Grey” – SundanceTV.

Dusting off the Cobwebs

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deep-breathYes, I am still alive.   No, I don’t want to talk about it, because I know how badly I’ve neglected my blog.  Suffice it to say, that I have begun to climb out of the darkness and am finding new light.

I have met some interesting new people, and one amazing person in particular, with whom I have much in common.  Part of starting a new chapter, is the element of newness and wonder seeing yourself through someone else’s eyes.  Sometimes we need to step back and strip away our biases against ourselves and see the simple beauty they see.  Thank you friend, for seeing inside my soul and being present with me.

There are a few wonderful books I’ll be sharing with you soon.   Just have to knock the cobwebs off the blog and publish my reviews.

Happy weekend, everyone.  I promise not to be a stranger.  Much.

Cover Reveal and Giveaway – “Reasonable Doubt (Volume 2)” by Whitney Gracia Williams

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Reasonable_Doubt_2_Final_Cover-1Title: Reasonable Doubt (Volume 2)

Author: Whitney Gracia Williams

Genre: 3-Part Erotic Romance Serial

Release Date: Very Soon!

Cover Designer:  Najla Qambers of Najla Qamber Designs

Goodreads Link: Reasonable Doubt: Volume 2

Cover Reveal Tour Organized by:  Between the Sheets Promotions

 

Synopsis:

She lied to me…

She betrayed the one rule that I’m most adamant about: Honesty. Complete and utter fucking honesty .

I really wish she was someone else–someone who didn’t have the ability to make me feel, someone I could easily discard like the hundreds of women before her.

She isn’t.

I’m drawn to her like I’ve never been drawn to a woman before–completely captivated by the very sight of her. But unfortunately, with my past slowly re-surfacing for all of the world to see, I’ll have to find a way to let her go.

She can never be mine.

 

Teaser (Appropriate for ages 18+):

Subject: ASSHOLE.
Just emailing you to say hello since you haven’t reached out to me, and you haven’t heard from me in a while.
Hope all is well.
—Aubrey

His response came immediately.

Subject: Re: ASSHOLE.
I fucked you this morning, and from what I remember, I heard you loud and clear.
—Andrew

Subject: Re: Re: ASSHOLE.
That’s not what I meant…I meant that you and I no longer talk on the phone or email each other like we used to. You only want to fuck, and you still have a big ass problem with leaving me hanging right after. Talking about the weather for five seconds once we get done is not what I meant by post-conversation and you know it.
You’re an asshole.
—Aubrey

Enter the Rafflecopter Giveaway for a chance to win a $5.00 giftcard, an ebook copy of Reasonable Doubt (Volume 1), or an eARC of Reasonable Doubt (Volume 2).

ReasonableDoubt.v7Bold-Final_(1)-2-1Reasonable Doubt (Volume 1) buy links:  Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

 

 

About the Author:

A self diagnosed candy addict, travel junkie, and hypochondriac, Whitney Gracia Williams LOVES to write about characters that make you laugh, cry, and want to (in the case of Selena Ross) reach through your Kindle and slap them.
She is the “imaginary bestselling” author of the Jilted Bride Series, Mid Life Love, Wasted Love, and Captain of My Soul.
When she’s not locked inside her room, feverishly typing away on her laptop, she can be found on her website, Facebook, Twitter, and Goodreads.  She also loves getting emails from her readers, so if you want to tell her how much you loved (or hated) her stories, email her at whitgracia@gmail.com.

 

 

 

 

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A-Z Challenge: “B” is for Blogging

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BWhen I started this blog, it had no real direction or theme.  In fact, I did not expect anyone to read it because it was going to be a place to synthesize my thoughts.  I never expected to “meet” other bloggers and be moved by their words, laugh with them or feel badly when they were experiencing the tough side of life.

I also did not expect to post my thoughts on books in a public forum for others to read.  I was content with posting my thoughts on Amazon or Goodreads, but the blog gave me the opportunity to add more personal comments that I did not feel were appropriate on Amazon or Goodreads.  Ultimately, this led to the reorganization of the blog.

My life has been in a state of transition for the past four years and some things are still unsettled.  I feel that everyone that has flowed in and out of my life, has helped me move in the right direction.  Some have moved into my life for a brief period to demonstrate what I want or do not want out of friendships and some have helped me along my blogging journey.  So today, I am recognizing Michelle from Ms. Romantic Reads, Anna from Herding Cats & Burning Soup, Becca from Lady or Not…Here I Come, The Chicks from Chick Swagger and Suzie from Suzie81 Speaks.  All of these bloggers have encouraged me, stopped by to chat and inspired me with their words.   May you all continue to brighten other people’s days with your wit, snark and spirited discussions.

 

A-Z Challenge: “A” is for “Aiden” – Book Trailer Reveal for Gina Maxwell’s “Fighting for Irish”

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AHe’ll fight for her life. She’ll fight for his love.

Former MMA fighter Aiden “Irish” O’Brien hasn’t stepped into the ring since he accidentally took someone’s life in the heat of rage. When his friend calls in a favor that sends him south to check on family, Irish figures he’s got nothing to lose. His life is on the ropes. The least he can do is make sure the sexy redhead is safe.Maxwell-Fighting For Irish

Kat MacGregor has forty-eight hours to settle the twenty thousand dollar debt her deadbeat ex-boyfriend owes a crime boss. If she doesn’t, she’ll pay for it—with her life. Kat’s halfway out the door when a sexy new guy walks into the bar and insists he’s there to help.

Irish is forced to fight in the underground MMA circuit to win the money she needs. But he’s been lying to Kat. About who he is, about knowing her sister, about why he comes home bruised every night. She’s the best thing that’s ever happened to him, but breaking her trust will cost him the most important fight of his life: the one for her heart.

Here is the link to my 5-Star Review.  Enjoy the book trailer for “Fighting for Irish!”


About the Author:

Gina L. Maxwell is a shameless romance addict with no intentions of ever kicking the habit.

Gina L Maxwell promo photoGrowing up she dreamed of helping people escape reality with her acting abilities…until college when she realized she had none to speak of.   Another ten years passed before she discovered a different means to accomplishing the same dream: writing stories of love and passion for addicts just like her.  Her debut novel, Seducing Cinderella, landed on the USA Today and NY Times Bestseller lists in less than a month.

Now she splits her time between writing more books and acting as Boss of the world’s first organized romance mafia, the Maxwell Mob.Thanks to the support she receives from her amazing family, Gina is finally able to live her dream of bringing a little romantic fantasy to the world, one steamy novel at a time.

Find out more about Gina on her website, follow her on Twitter, and Pinterest and like her Facebook page.

 

 

 

Cover Reveal and Giveaway – “Honor Reclaimed” by Tonya Burrows

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Fans of Tonya Burrows will be excited to learn that Seth Harlan’s story will be released in two months!   Honor Reclaimed brings Team HORNET back together for another mission.  If the action, suspense and sexy times are like SEAL of Honor we will be in for another treat!

Title:  Honor Reclaimed

Author: Tina Burrows

Genre:  Romantic Suspense

Release Date:  May 27, 2014

Event Organized by:  Katie Clapsadl, Publicity Brazen, Covet, Ignite, Edge, & Select Entangled Publishing

honor reclaimedSynopsis:

Former Marine scout sniper Seth Harlan is new to HORNET and anxious to prove he can still do his job despite an ongoing battle with PTSD. He remembers all too well what it’s like to sit inside an enemy camp, praying for rescue and waiting for death. So when a black ops soldier contacts HORNET to rescue a buddy who was left behind, all sorts of nasty memories strain his newfound stability.

When an interview with a runaway Afghan child bride leads photojournalist Phoebe Leighton to an arms deal involving a suitcase bomb powerful enough to wipe out a mid-sized town, she realizes this is one battle she can’t win on her own. Forming an unlikely alliance with a ragtag team of military and government delinquents, she meets Seth, a sniper carrying as many emotional scars as physical, who impresses her with his steely will and ignites passions within her she thought long dead.

Suddenly this mission is about a lot more than an abandoned soldier. Racing against the clock, Seth, Phoebe, and the rest of HORNET struggle to stop that bomb before it reaches it’s final destination: The United States.

 

Add “Honor Reclaimed” to your Goodreads shelf.

Pre-order “Honor Reclaimed” from Amazon or Barnes & Noble.

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About the Author:

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Author Tonya Burrows

Tonya wrote her first romance in 8th grade and hasn’t put down her pen since. She shares her life with two dogs and a ginormous cat, and she’s from a small town in Western New York, but is currently soaking up the sun as a Florida girl. She suffers from a bad case of wanderlust and usually ends up moving someplace new every few years–luckily, her animals are all excellent travel buddies.

When she’s not writing about hunky military heroes, Tonya can usually be found at a bookstore or the dog park. She also enjoys painting, watching movies, and her daily Barre workouts. A geek at heart, she pledges her TV fandom to Supernatural and Doctor Who.

You can find Tonya on her website, FacebookTwitter, and Goodreads.   Visit her blog and sign up for her newsletter.

 

Song of the Week – “Wanna Be Startin’ Somethin'” by Michael Jackson

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I miss the King of Pop, since I grew up with his music still love it.  Michael was more than a singer, dancer and entertainer.  He was humble, generous and sadly, misunderstood.  I wish he were still with us.

The song of the week reflects a challenge that I set for myself today.  I just joined the Blogging from A to Z April Challenge (April 2014).   As someone who was diagnosed with ADHD, in her mid-forties, this will go one of two ways (1) help me organize my thoughts and blog every day or (2) create chaos and anxiety in my life.

I choose organization, as it will “force” me to publish book reviews, and some reflection posts, I have been putting off.   I am #1703.  Hear me blog!   Now, DANCE!  Have a great weekend, everyone!

4-Enchanted Stars for A.D. Marrow’s “Love and Other Cosmic Nonsense” – Book Review

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Breaking it off with her long-time non-magical boyfriend, Evan, was for his own good. At least that’s what Maggie Owen tells herself. After all, a witch and a human can have no future together. Her vision told her so. But now it seems the universe is exacting revenge for upsetting the balance of what “should be” and her heart is telling her she was wrong. 

Evan Jackson can’t believe his bad luck. It’s been a year since Maggie broke his heart, and now his business partner has hired her as their new receptionist. Fine, they need the help. But no way will he let her get close again. He can’t take another heartbreak from the woman he still dreams about, even if it feels like there’s still a magical pull between them. 

Being in the same building with Evan is a start, but it’s going to take more than Maggie’s special talents and a wink to get the hard-hearted bad-boy to see that love is really more than just cosmic nonsense and set the universe back into balance. 

 

My Review:

Take Bewitched, mix in a little Miami Ink For a Bewitching Debut – 4 Enchanted Stars

Disclaimer: While I received a complimentary copy of this book from the author for an honest review, I enjoyed the book so much I purchased it for my ebookshelf.

This lovers-reunited novella, found Maggie Owen accepting a job at the very tattoo shop co-owned by her ex-boyfriend, Evan Jackson. In a cosmically ironic turn of events, their reunion was the impetus they needed to face their strong feelings for each other and the reasons for their breakup. There were several naughty, but not overtly explicit, sex scenes, that pulled readers in, as Maggie and Evan’s personal barriers were torn down and their mutual desire heated up. They had to look past their surface attraction, to the deep feelings underneath and both learned to accept the other’s gifts, including Maggie’s magical connection.

Annabel, Maggie’s sister and Liam, Evan’s business partner and friend, rounded out the cast and there were hints of a possible love match for Liam in future books. These secondary characters were even funnier and snarkier than the lead characters. My favorite quote was delivered by Annabel as she described Evan, “Maggie, the man looks like Aphrodite and David Gandy had a love baby. He loves art and building stuff. He likes puppies. He volunteers at a soup kitchen. His favorite movie is Love Actually for heaven’s sake.” (Marrow, A. D. (2014-03-24). Love and Other Cosmic Nonsense (Entangled Covet) (Kindle Locations 246-247). Entangled Publishing, LLC. Kindle Edition.) Who wouldn’t fall for a tattooed good boy, like that?

My only note was that the story was too short. I know A.D. Marrow planned to continue the series but this reader would have enjoyed some flashbacks to the characters’ “meet cute,” “first date,” or “first sex scene.” The length did not detract from the story – I just wanted more! However, fans of Entangled books will be pleasantly surprised with at least one cameo from another author’s popular MMA fighter series.

I look forward to Ms. Marrow’s future books and recommend Love and Other Cosmic Nonsense (Entangled Covet) for those days when you need a short, sweet and funny happily ever after to curl up with on a cold or rainy day.

Review links: Amazon and Goodreads.

 

About the Author:

Author A.D. Marrow
Author A.D. Marrow

A.D Marrow is a  a registered Sapiophile, a proud Geek since before Geek was chic and believes that everyone deserves a happily ever after. She lives in the foothills of North Carolina with her ridiculously hot and amazingly supportive husband, three kids that rock so hard there should be a national holiday for their awesomeness, two really stupid dogs and a plethora of Post-it notes with book ideas to last her until she’s 90.

Her childhood dream is realized in the fact that YOU have cause to read her bio. She hopes that one day, it lends her enough credibility to live out her second dream, which is to write an episode of “Doctor Who.

Her personal mantra echoes that of Morticia Adams; “Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.”

You can find A.D. on her websiteFacebook, Twitter and Pinterest.

When Street Teams Go Rogue

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street team generic logo“A street team is a term used in marketing to describe a group of people who ‘hit the streets’ promoting an event or a product. ‘Street Teams’ are promotional tools that have been adopted industry-wide as a standard line item in marketing budgets by entertainment companies, record labels, the tech industry, corporate brand marketers, new media companies and direct marketers worldwide.” (Source: Wikipedia)  The concept has been used in non-traditional or guerrilla marketing to reach new consumers, for many years.

Many authors, especially new and/or independent authors, believe they “need” to have Street Teams in order to remain competitive.  Street Teams are fantastic when they are carefully organized and administered.  The author should select a trusted person experienced in managing online groups of volunteers to lead or supervise the Street Team.  The members may not be paid staff, but they are working on behalf of the author,   There should be clearly delineated expectations, tasks and goals, and each member should sign an agreement with a confidentiality clause, standards of behavior and causes for termination.

Yes, it does sound like a modified employment contract, because Street Teams have been “hired” to promote authors.   While most people on Street Teams behave ethically and professionally, there are a few bad apples who have turned a good idea into nightmare scenarios for some authors.    Sadly, the bad apples feel a need to bully others, on behalf of the author.  Ultimately, the author is left with the negative publicity and the bad apples move on, unscathed.

As someone who managed volunteers, for a living, I understood the thin line between asking for help, directing volunteers’ energy and harnessing this energy to accomplish the agency’s goals.   All while honoring the volunteers’ spirit of service, time commitments and expertise.   Timely firing of ineffective or disruptive volunteers was a necessary part of equation.  Street Teams should be no different.

no bullyingLast week, Joanna Wylde’s following Facebook post struck a chord with me.   As a member of many Street Teams, I have unfortunately, run across the people she described in her post.  In fact, I left a few Street Teams that became competitive, uncomfortable, and began harassing bloggers and/or reviewers that rated the authors’ book anything less than four or five-stars on Amazon, Barnes & Noble or Goodreads.  I am not proud of the fact, that when the author asked, I “disliked” another person’s reviews or left snarky comments (which I deleted when I left the Street Team).  It was not my place to judge another person’s book review.

Ms. Wylde noted that Street Teams are merely one way to promote an author’s work, but not the only one.  Below are her eloquent words.  (Here is the link to her original post.)

On National Public Radio, there is a series called “This I Believe,” where people share things that are important to them as individuals and members of society. Today I want to share what’s important to me.

I believe it’s wrong to throw poo at people.

Unfortunately, that statement isn’t a joke. Recently I’ve been trying to live by the motto “Not my circus, not my monkeys” because the indie world is full of drama, and engaging in drama doesn’t help me hit my daily word count. This morning I woke up to discover so much monkey shit flying that I need an umbrella. I have to say something for the sake of my conscience, because I feel sick.

I learned today that yet another blogger has given up after significant harassment from “readers” supporting an author. She shut down her blog because she can’t take the abuse any longer, and she’s created a new identity to hide from the bullies.

How fucked up is that?

People start blogs because they love to read and feel passionate about sharing that love. They work their butts off because they believe in our writing community, and they’re being rewarded like this? It would be easy to dismiss this as one situation where a blogger was being overly sensitive if I hadn’t seen so much of it myself in the past months. I’ve been a target at times, and I’m here to tell you it sucks ass and I want it to stop.

The people flinging poo are called street teams, and they are a form of organized marketing support for a specific writer. Most writers direct their street teams personally. The goal of a street team is to promote an author’s work and the street team model has been held up as a viable and effective strategy for authors by many experts.

I disagree.

Street teams started out as a reasonable strategy for authors, but so many of these teams have degraded into organized gangs of bullies–creating an atmosphere of fear and hostility detrimental to our entire community–that I think it’s time to stop using them (as authors) or joining them (as readers).

I think it’s time even if you have the best of intentions and don’t mean harm to anyone.

Why? Because they are part and parcel of a publishing world where copying another author’s work has become routine and blatant, and authors gleefully celebrate successes built on lies. Incrementally, the boundaries of decency are eroding and street teams are ground zero for this erosion. Their tactics are horrible, including fake positive reviews for the author they’re championing and fake negative ones for those the team sees as competition for their chosen pet.

It’s gotten to the point where you can’t trust reviews unless you know the reviewer–how does this ultimately help ANY of us as authors? We’re undermining the very system that’s allowed authors to break free and reach readers directly. It’s cannibalism. None of us can sell books if the readers can’t trust what’s said about our work.

It doesn’t stop with reviews or spam, either. Sometimes street teams send hate-filled messages, and have gone so far as to make false accusations and tell lies about their targets. To the best of my knowledge, no street team has physically assaulted a blogger or reader to try and force them to buy a book, but they’ve done almost everything else.

So what does it take to become a target of these teams? Bloggers are attacked for failing to review a book, for giving a negative review, or for choosing not to participate in promotion for the author running the team. For authors, the “crimes” leading to such attacks include a shared release date, a shared subgenre or just speaking out publicly about what’s really happening behind the scenes. I fully expect a fresh attack after I hit publish on this essay.

Bring it on.

For me, silence has become complicity. I’m drawing my line right here, right now–I’m not willing to be an accomplice for one minute longer. If this was happening at my child’s school I wouldn’t stand by, and I’m not going to stand by professionally, either. This is my community and it’s worth fighting for.

That’s important, so I’m going to repeat it. Our community of readers, writers and bloggers is worth fighting for. We need each other.

I’m begging you – if you’re an author, QUESTION what you’ve been told about marketing. Do you really NEED a street team? Ultimately, if your success is built on the corpses of bloggers and other writers, you are destroying the people you need to help you in the long run. An organized gang of bullies is NOT good marketing and it’s no way to live. Can you guarantee that nobody on your team will ever bully someone? How would you even know if they did? Of course, that’s assuming that the authors are innocent, which isn’t always the case… That’s why readers have to be part of the solution, too. As a group, we have to say NO MORE.

It’s wrong to throw poo at people.

Hurting other people to make a quick buck is ALWAYS WRONG.

Writing is a marathon, not a sprint, and nobody finishes a marathon if they have to carry a hundred pounds of shit on their back the whole way.

Let’s drop the shit and start running together, because we aren’t monkeys.

 

About the Author:

Joanna Wylde is a freelance writer living in Coeur d’Alene, Idaho. She started writing fiction in 2002, then took a long hiatus to explore other writing opportunities. Ms. Wylde returned to fiction in January 2013 with Reaper’s Property, the first book in the Reapers Motorcycle Club series.  She may be reached on her website, Facebook and Twitter.  Please support her by purchasing, reading and writing reviews for her books.

 

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A Toast to Transforming the Blog

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blog to change your lifeI began this blog when I returned to undergraduate studies and believed it would document my experiences through Nursing School.  During the process, I found myself wanting to talk about any topic, except Nursing school and it became a place to recharge my soul batteries.   I also enjoyed posting book reviews and discussing different literary genres with readers. The blog’s transformation was gradual, and I was happy to let it happen, organically.

Yesterday, “Chronicles of a 40-Something Nurse Wannabe” evolved into “Reading, Drinking and Dancing with a Chaser of Snark.” The name and layout makeover reflected my blogging persona and recurring themes of this blog.   It bids fond farewell to a name that served me well, but no longer represents where I am in my life.  Hubby helped synthesize the name.   He does not know it yet, but I hope to interview him for future posts, to get “The Former Sergeant’s Perspective.”

Over the next weeks, you will see specific posts on designated days, especially featured book reviews.  There may even be a “Grand Opening.”  I will continue to discuss current events, reality television and topics that move me.   All previous posts were saved and may be read by searching by topic.

Thank you for being on this journey with me.   Stay tuned for more!