Grace Under Pressure – One of the Benefits of Sororities

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As a lifelong “Sorority Girl” and advisor for 13 years, I am often asked about the benefits of sororities.  The public is quick to embrace the image of Sorority Women as entitled or shallow, but fails to realize that most of our leaders, both women and men, have a Greek letter affiliations.   For many of us, our first contact with many of the complex issues we face, and will face, in our professional lives were experienced in our college Chapters.

I learned how to manage my time and balance my classes, job, sorority commitments and personal life, whether I wanted to, or not.   My Sorority taught me how to maximize my time, because time was a limited commodity.  I also practiced talking to difficult people, or people I would not normally approach, on a regular basis.    This skill, learned through Rush/Recruitment, has helped me throughout my life.  Each time I have accepted a new job or promotion, I had to market myself, time and time again – just like I did, during Rush.

Creed of Chi Omega Women's Fraternity
Creed of Chi Omega Women’s Fraternity

I was disgusted when I read the article criticizing Kelsey Williams, a professional NBA, fit, beautiful cheerleader by a female sports “blogger.”  The “blogger” did not criticize Ms. Williams’ ability to perform her job, instead she chose to ridicule Ms. Williams’ appearance.   Then, the blog post went viral, exposing Ms. Williams to the ugliness found on Social Media.  The “blogger” has since been fired, and rightfully so.  Sadly, Ms. Williams’ had to publicly defend herself, against this unprovoked attack.   Her tweet about the incident “To be womanly always, discouraged never,” is a quote from the Chi Omega Symphony – a document I am intimately familiar with, as I have recited it for the better part of 24 years.  I am also a Chi Omega, like Ms. Williams.

I was upset when I heard that a woman was ripping another woman for her APPEARANCE, rather than her job performance.  When a fellow Alumna Sister pointed out to me, that Ms. Williams was a fellow NPC (National Panhellenic Conference) and Chi Omega Sister, it became “personal” for me.   No one rips into one of my Sisters, without provocation, especially when the person is not woman enough to look her target in the eye, as she does it.     Using Social Media to shame and ridicule others is called cyber-bullying.  I call it cowardice of the highest order.

However, this situation has a silver lining.   Sorority women of all ages, backgrounds and affiliations have rallied around Ms. Williams, in support.   She was interviewed by “Good Morning America,” about the incident and was able to demonstrate her own personal strength and grace.     Her actions speak to the positive aspects of sororities more than any movie or television show.   I am proud to support her, and other Greek women, who understand the benefits of Sisterhood have nothing to do with cute t-shirts, dating and social functions, and EVERYTHING to do with learning how to become the best version of yourself – an empowered woman.

Kelsey Williams Interview on “Good Morning America”

9 thoughts on “Grace Under Pressure – One of the Benefits of Sororities

    Melinda Eubanks West said:
    May 16, 2013 at 3:59 am

    I am proud to be a sorority sister of Kelsey Williams!!!!! I am a Chi Omega from ZZ chapter at Samford University in Birmingham, AL. I, too, have been very involved with my chapter and with national, having been a National Representative, and a member of the first National Advisory Training Team. I was the Personnel Advisor for my chapter for 13 years and it is one of the MOST rewarding things in my life. Chi Omega shaped me into the woman I am today. ZZ is about to celebrate our 50th Anniversary on Samford’s campus…I was a part of the “first decade” of pledge classes and I am helping plan the event. CHI OMEGA IS FOR A LIFETIME!!!!! Go Kelsey!!! You make us proud.

      Michelle responded:
      May 16, 2013 at 12:36 pm

      Hi Melinda!
      I appreciate you stopping by. It’s wonderful to connect with other Chi O sisters from around the world.

      Funny story about my connection to ZZ Chapter. My roommate at Convention 2012 was a ZZ Alumna who is serving as Theta Theta’s Recruitment Advisor. I believe she (like me) pledged in the late 1980s. Her name is Erin and she’s AMAZING! I wonder if you were advising when she was active…Hmm….

        Melinda Eubanks West said:
        May 16, 2013 at 5:43 pm

        I would have known her…I was their Personnel Advisor at that time. What is her last name??? The world gets smaller every day on FB. I’ll see a post on a friend of mine’s wall and it will be someone that is either on our “Lost Sister” list or we’ve been trying to find updated info on them for this 50th Anniversary Dinner in November…Erin needs to come!!!! Can’t wait to hear her name. Where is Theta Theta chapter located?
        Have a great day, sister!!

        Melinda Eubanks West said:
        May 16, 2013 at 5:45 pm

        Is her maiden name Erin Weir or Wier?

        Michelle responded:
        May 16, 2013 at 8:00 pm


        Melinda Eubanks West said:
        May 16, 2013 at 9:19 pm

        OK, will do. COs are everywhere!!!!

        Michelle responded:
        May 16, 2013 at 10:48 pm

        We are! 🙂

        Melinda Eubanks West said:
        May 16, 2013 at 6:01 pm

        Is it Erin Wier or Weir (maiden name)???

        Michelle responded:
        May 16, 2013 at 8:03 pm

        Theta Theta Chapter is located at the University of South Florida. Send me a private email to mmmazuros at yahoo dot com and I will put you in contact with Erin!

        She’ll be thrilled to hear from you.

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