I originally published this post two years ago, but I liked it and thought it was worth another look. My friends who are mothers have declared me a “Dog Mom,” which I suspect is one step closer to Crazy Dog Lady – a moniker I fully embrace.
Hubby and I do not have children. Why, or how, is no one’s business and not subject for a public forum. Suffice it to say, that in our mid-40s, we are not planning to start a family, as our family is complete.
This brings me to the awkwardness of Mother’s Day, and the exploitation….er, “celebration,” of motherhood. It has become a slippery slope like wishing someone “Happy Holidays.” My response when someone wishes me a happy anything, is to say, “thank you.” I don’t care to have a long, drawn out discussion of religion, philosophy, end-of-days, heaven, hell, bunions, facial hair, acne or explosive diarrhea. Although, as a Nursing Student I have an unnatural fascination with bowel movements. They are magical!
More awkward than wishing someone a “Happy Mother’s Day,” is the “do you have children” question. When I answer, “no,” there are two reactions. The cover-up “oh,” followed by uneasy silence, or the probing “why not?” My typical response is to shrug my shoulders and stare at the person, because saying “none of your damned business,” seems unnecessarily harsh. And, it really is NONE of their business, so I don’t engage in conversation about it. I simply don’t care to hear their thoughts about my personal life. Ironically, the people who are most likely to ask, or make unsolicited comments, are those least closest to me. Interesting.
Many of us mentor others throughout our lives. In my case, there are several women whom I have advised during incredibly difficult experiences in their lives. I was the “adult” they turned to for support and advice. They chose me, for their own personal reasons and I was honored to be their shoulder to cry on or first person to celebrate with. Did that make me a mother? <shoulder shrug>
Which brings me to Mother’s Day. What do you say to single fathers, grandparents raising their grandchildren, foster parents, gay dads, siblings raising other siblings? I still struggle with this.
However, in honor of the “holiday,” I wish EVERYONE who is mother, or serves in the role of a mother a happy day. May you be celebrated for your personal contributions to forming the next generation by being acknowledged for being YOU. (Free meals, coffee and gift certificates are also nice, people.)
Insulting someone’s belief system, then feeling “offended” when they defend themselves, is a malady of the relative anonymity of the internet.
If you feel compelled to share your opinion, approach from a place of respect, rather than a place of blame, shame and personal judgment.
Originally posted on The Library of Trinity College Dublin:
The Library of Trinity College Dublin would like to announce that the Book of Kells in its entirety is now viewable in the Library’s new Digital Collections online repository, provided by the Library’s Digital Resources and Imaging Services.
The Book of Kells transparencies, originally captured by Faksimile Verlag, Lucerne, Switzerland in 1990, have recently been rescanned using state of the art imaging technology. These new digital images offer the most accurate high resolution images to date, providing an experience second only to viewing the book in person.
In addition, we would like to direct you to the new iPad app of the Book of Kells, with added functionality and commentary.
Have you seen the new volume on the Book of Kells by Trinity’s Head of Research Collections and Keeper of Manuscripts, Dr Bernard Meehan? It’s been receiving fantastic reviews. Available…
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I was raised in the Catholic Church, but left when it became a closed, judgmental place. I was further alienated when the Church refused to admit, apologize and provide reparations to children who were the victims of abuse at the hands of priests. Finally, the unrealistic expectations with regards to contraception in modern relationships left me wondering if I would ever feel as part of flock ever again.
Pope Francis has done so much to bring lapsed-Catholics, like me, who are politically left-of-center, but still identify as Catholics, spiritually. His words and actions are congruent and his emphasis on creating a place where dialog may take place is gratifying to see.
His visit to the US, was joyful, thoughtful, evocative and unifying. It displayed everything that made the Catholic Church the place of community I remember, from my childhood.
Pope Francis is shaking things up in a “Jesuit” way, and I pray for him to travel safely and enjoy great health for many years. We need his voice on the world stage, his leadership in the Catholic Church to continue to investigate the banking practices of the Vatican, and as a true representative of St. Peter, the Vicar of Christ on Earth.
God bless you, Papa Francisco!
Originally posted on Bondings 2.0:
In his final two days in the United States, Pope Francis provided his most explicit focus on the highly contested social topics of marriage and religious liberty, and he did so by avoiding full support to either the U.S. bishops or the LGBT community on both topics. And in his final public appearance, at the Philadelphia Mass, he made, in the words of a National Catholic Reporter news story “a strong exhortation to American Catholics to be unafraid of trying new things, even if they seem to threaten long-practiced traditions or existing church structures.”
On the morning of September 27th, the pontiff addressed bishops attending the World Meeting of Families, and made his most direct remark about the growing acceptance of marriage equality around the globe:
“Until recently, we lived in a social context where the similarities between the civil institution of marriage and the Christian…
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As a former Nursing Student, I know how much nurses do every day. They are intelligent, caring, professional healers who do the real work of caring for patients. Until nurses are acknowledged for the work they do, I will continue to share their stories.
Originally posted on Rebecca's Ramblings:
Since I saw The View’s so-called “apology” clip on social media, I’ve given this post a tremendous amount of thought. My first instinct and knee-jerk reaction was to sit down with my laptop and blast them with full force…unload my anger and outrage onto the page…err…computer screen…so I could purge it and get all of that negativity out of my system. I’ll admit, I even got about a quarter of the way through that piece, when I stopped to re-read it. It was a scathing, searing diatribe that quite frankly, made me ashamed of myself. It sounded like something that the View Crew would say…it was petty, spiteful, angry and distasteful. That’s not who I am as a person, a writer or more specifically, a nurse. Quite frequently, I end my blog posts with a sentence urging my readers to be kind to each other. I am a tireless advocate for tolerance, peaceful coexistence and doing…
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“Helicopters Parents” were part of the reason I stopped advising college women. Too many calls home resulted in co-rumination, rather than empowering students to troubleshoot their own lives. Coupled with a sense of entitlement and poor impulse control with social media, the more responsibility we advisers tried to place on the students, the more they “rebelled” by calling home. It became increasingly frustrating to help the young women take ownership of their words and actions – and the resulting consequences. In short, they were simply “more emotionally fragile,” than the previous generations.
The article gives some good tips to assist students, without usurping their independence and responsibilities.
This is really a fantastic explanation, in clear terms, of how to support someone living with PTSD.
Originally posted on sometimesmagical:
This cartoon (from Robot Hugs), in my opinion, illustrates the perfect way to handle every PTSD or anxiety episode. If I could actually live inside a blanket fort forever, I would.
Unfortunately, flashbacks, panic attacks, nightmares, intrusive thoughts, memories, triggers, and all those other lovely things that survivors have to live with don’t have the courtesy to always wait for blanket forts to be available.
It’s scary for the person experiencing the attack, but it’s also scary for any loved ones who are trying to comfort and support someone through an attack.
This post is for the supporters.
Often in the midst of the episode, the distressed person doesn’t necessarily have their full vocabulary and can’t articulate exactly what they need in that moment. Afterwards, they may avoid talking about it out of embarrassment, fear, or a desire to preserve the peacefulness of the present.
So how do you…
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Beautifully, gentle cover, by David Gilmour, of a Beatles song.
Originally posted on Consequence of Sound:
Photo via FeelNumb.com
David Gilmour, of the recently broken up Pink Floyd, returns next month with a brand new solo album, his first in 10 years. Thus far, he’s previewed the title track to Rattle That Lock along with a striking animated video. Now, he’s unveiled a cover of The Beatles‘ Revolver-era favorite “Here, There and Everywhere’. The track won’t appear on Rattle That Lock, but rather is included in this month’s issue of MOJO Magazine which features Gilmour on the cover. Listen to the faithful rendition below.
Check out Gilmour on tour supporting Rattle That Lock: