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El Bachelor es un Gran Pendejo and We Can’t Stop Watching

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El Pendejo
El Pendejo

SPOILER ALERT:  If you have not watched this week’s episodes of The Bachelor stop reading, immediately. 

I have watched ABC’s The Bachelor and The Bachelorette on and off since the first season.  I usually watched the first few shows, dropped off in the middle and picked it back up when the contestants had been narrowed down to four or five.  Of all the reality TV dating shows, The Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise had the best track record of lasting relationships.  Two Bachelorettes and one Bachelor reached the altar with their chosen “Final Rose” recipient.  The majority of the couples dated then broke up.

I questioned the motives of the male contestants and Bachelors, because it could be a meat market for unscrupulous men.  Fortunately,  most of the men have taken the process seriously, whether they have found Ms. Right, or not.  Moreover, most of the female contestants were truly looking for love –  in the worst possible scenario and under international television scrutiny – but, once all the hype was stripped away, they wanted to make a love connection.  This show was for folks with brass cojones, as they were willingly subjecting themselves to an artificial dating environment and giving up their privacy.  In fact, the group dynamics were fascinating  (cringe-worthy) to watch from a sociological perspective.   (I hope there were mental health professionals available to assist them as they transitioned back to the “real” world.)

Kermit is not amused by you, Juan Pablo.
Kermit is not amused by you, Juan Pablo.

On Desiree’s season of The Bachelorette, there was a contestant who stood out as special.  His name was Juan Pablo Galavis and along with so many women (and men) I fell under his mesmerizing spell.  I was thrilled when he was named the next Bachelor.  Finally, a Bachelor I could root for!  Juan Pablo was an attractive, Latino, single dad, completely devoted to his daughter,  who carried himself as a charming gentleman.   Desiree  eliminated him relatively early, but his loyal fans ensured ABC knew how popular he was, and he was selected to be the next Bachelor.

All of us who expected to see the same man who enchanted us, were duped!   Juan Pablo started off charming enough, but quickly became quite the megadouchetart.  As the weeks progressed and he narrowed down his selection of contestants,  we saw sides of his personality that sent up puzzling red flags.    Was he plagued by a language barrier or simply a “guy,” versus a “man” as eloquently expressed in Cameron Crowe’s 1989 movie Say Anything?   Long story, short…..he was a guy…the lowest version thereof.

Andi from Atlanta
D.A. Andi from Atlanta

Not one, but two women walked off the show, effectively eliminating themselves.  The first, Sharleen, was ambivalent about the entire process and I am still confused as to how she was selected to participate.  The woman was never engaged in the process, but was likely seeking publicity for her opera career.   More power to her.   On Monday night, however, Juan Pablo went on the “hometown” dates, where met the final three contestants’ families.   Each family expressed concerns over the situation the women found themselves in and questioned whether or not, Juan Pablo was seriously committed to each one.

Here's to an epic Rose Ceremony, and the well-deserved roast of Juan Pablo. ¡Salúd!
Here’s to an epic Rose Ceremony, and the well-deserved roast of Juan Pablo. ¡Salúd!

Tuesday night, Andi, the bright, bubbly District Attorney from Atlanta, with the best dad in Bachelor history, left the show.  She and Juan Pablo had a  disastrous fantasy suite date,  where he shared (bragged?) about his  “conquests.”  After trying unsuccessfully to make Juan Pablo understand, react or reach out to her, she put him in his place, called him out as an arrogant asshole and left.   I cheered her on all the way.  As I live tweeted through tvtag, the overwhelming consensus was that all the women, who had either left or been eliminated, were better off without Juan Pablo, aka. El Pendejo.   His final tweet of the show was “I’de Rather Not Be Appreciated Being Honest, Than Be Appreciated And Not Being Honest…”  No te preocupes, querido.  Las pocas fanáticas que te quedaban ya no existen, mal criado.

Must see TV indeed.   Telenovela writers wished they had this material!    I felt badly for the women on the show, but as a viewer, this was reality TV gold.   Oh, and I expect to see Andi again.  Very soon.

Next week is the Final Rose Ceremony and the rumors abound as to whether Juan Pablo will choose Clare or Nikki.   Reality Steve provided spoilers when the season started, but nothing is as entertaining as the teasers for the Reunion Show.  It promises to be a skewer-fest as the women have their “day in court.”  I will be watching and live tweeting.  Pour yourself a lovely glass of Malbec and join me.

In the meantime, here is a toast to Lloyd Dobler , who proved to a man, not a guySigh.

Bella Juarez releases “Hanging By a Moment”

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Used with permission by the author.
Used with permission by the author.

Widower and Air Force reservist, Tom Ryan fills the empty spaces in his life by building dream homes for others. When he’s invited to a client’s party, he meets the owner’s sister-in-law, a tempestuous artist, and discovers that maybe there is a wrong time to meet the right person…

Free-spirited Emily Sanchez is known for pushing the envelope in art, but meeting dependable, and down-to-earth Tom challenges her. The man has submissive written all over him, and she thinks she might be just the woman to peel back the layers and release the brilliant passion inside.

But when they are paired by Madame Eve, Tom turns the tables on Emily, because he’s always been curious about the lifestyle and if the chaotic artist is willing to surrender, they may discover their deepest desire…

Purchase Hanging by a Moment on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or BookStrand.

About the Author:

Bella Juarez is originally from San Antonio, Texas and now lives and writes on a small ranch in South Central Texas. She draws inspiration from the real life heroes and heroines of the United States military and her many experiences in the twelve years she worked within that world as well as from her life in the civilian world. Her love of thrill and adventure are reflected in her stories. When she’s not writing, Bella runs a business and is active in the business community. She also runs half-marathons.

Find out more about Bella on her website, follow her on Twitter, and like her Facebook page.

Happy Valentine’s Day

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Happy Valentine's Day

Hope you have a wonderful day, everyone. Whether you “celebrate” Valentine’s Day or not, it is a great reminder to practice self-care and be kind to ourselves and each other.

“If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete” ~ Buddha

 

 

 

Here is my favorite Valentine’s Day memory:

My favorite Valentine’s Day memory didn’t actually happen on Valentine’s Day. Hubby and I had been living together for about six months and talked about getting married. He met my parents, and unbeknownst to me, asked my Dad for my hand in marriage, at Christmas. For a while I thought he was going to propose at Thanksgiving…then at Christmas…then on New Year’s Eve. But, nothing happened.

I thought “ah, he’s waiting for Valentine’s Day,” and all the when-is-he-going-to-ask-me-to-marry-him stress left my body. It was briefly replaced with maybe-he’s-not-going-to-propose panic, but I figured it would happen eventually, otherwise we would not have talked about it. He also said, “leave Valentine’s Day open.”

Around the middle of January, my washing machine broke. Hubby said, “you need to be home because I’m calling a guy to come fix it.” Ok, cool. It never occurred to me that a repairman coming out to our apartment on a Friday afternoon was odd. So, when the “washing machine repairman” knocked on my door, I opened it.

It was Hubby, fortified by a few beers at Hooters (the waitress ended up comping all of them, when he told them was he was getting ready to do), and dressed in his suit dropped to one knee and proposed. :)

We still celebrate our un-Valentine’s Day date, almost 17 years later.

Tell me about your favorite Valentine’s Day.