When I started this blog I needed an outlet for my feelings. Not only has the experience been cathartic, it has given me the opportunity to read other bloggers’ thoughts. But, the unexpected blessing has been the thought-provoking discussions I have had with people all over the world. Over time, I my readership numbers steadily increased, and I started to find my voice. Thank you for taking the journey alongside me.
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I am blessed to have parents and in-laws who are supportive, loving and still “worry” about me, even though I’m middle-aged. I shared the news of the temporary pause, yet again, of my nursing education journey with them. While they were upset for me – probably more than I was – they immediately had words of comfort and support for me.
This marks a new chapter in my life, into uncharted waters. Do I want to continue on the same course, or try something different? Is this my passion or something that seemed like a good idea at the time? Am I ready to make another leap? These questions remain unanswered at the moment.
What I Know
1. I have a passion for reading and writing. Until this Summer, when I was writing consistently, it was only a hobby.
2. I like to help others. In the broad sense. I am the person you turn to when you need tough love, or when tough choices need to be made.
3. I like to work for myself.
The key will be to combine 1, 2, and 3. Stay tuned.
Today I am thankful for the many people who came into my life through Nursing school. We will soon be parting ways, but they will live forever in my heart.
Life is change. We have the choice to accept and embrace change, or not. The hardest part is knowing change is inevitable but not being ready for it. Or watching helplessly as people we love are hurt by changes in their lives. A natural instinct is to protect – but, from what or whom?
As I’ve moved through adult life and collected experiences, I am struck by how different my life was 20 or 30 years ago. I envisioned myself as an attorney and created an elaborate life of excess. It was the 1980s and “excess” was the “American dream.” Once I went to college, that vision evolved as my views on social justice and politics were refined. Excess seemed distasteful and wrought with greed. It was the wrong fit for me, even though I attempted to make it fit. After college, I started to find my voice. It has been, and will be, a lifelong process.
But, what happens when someone I care for is experiencing difficult changes? Especially, when I recognize the process and know it will be painful, albeit necessary, for that person. Should I “nag?” Should I leave them alone? Should I wait to be contacted? Each situation has been unique and while I want to say I handled them well, that would be inaccurate. If I’m lucky, I’m breaking even on the “supportive friend/family member” role.
Changes are part of the life cycle and, in some respects, “expected.” However, “everyday” life changes like starting a new job, marriage, divorce, losing a job, having children, not having children, etc., may be unexpected. We can attempt to prepare ourselves for them by being the best version of ourselves and staying connected with those we love. For me, this means not retreating into my cocoon of solitude, or we call it at my house, my “bear hibernation cave.” I am naturally extroverted and have an opinionated, over-the-top, bull-in-a-china-shop, overwhelming personality. But, when I become quiet, introspective and retreat into myself, I am either angry or very sad.
So, as I reflect back on how I manage change, I am struck by Bono’s quote, “I can’t change the world, but I can change the world in me.” I think he is talking about growing older and learning from previous experiences. Then, using the knowledge, understanding and possibly, maturity gained to move forward.
David Bowie expresses it beautifully, in the song “Changes”
Onward and upward.